
The conversation was doomed from the start: an Acclaimed Writer of Travel Books was discussing the superior role and responsibility of the writer as traveler. A novelist can experience new places in a deeper, more ethical way most others (especially soldiers) cannot, he said. I was getting uncomfortable.
According to Acclaimed Writer, the majority of travel writing is merely a subjective list of popular visited places and tourist reactions. This happens especially with lady writers, for example, his good friend’s wife, whose book was a boring account of her plain travels with someone else. She hooked up with several men, he made sure to let us know (women always “hook up” abroad; this definition was unclear).
His criticisms of her character mimicked sentiments I’ve heard countless times: women always travel with others, traveling alone makes a better writer. I imagine it helps to be multi-privileged – I explained that I often travel alone, but there are places in the world from which I feel shut out of traveling solo due to my gender. Acclaimed Writer asked “Where?” Recalling the amazing footage from Michael Palin’s Himalaya and Sahara, I replied that I’d love to visit Pakistan and Morocco.
Maybe I should have known better to name such worn travel themes as the Middle East? Acclaimed Writer launched into an explanation that these areas are now cliché, and then in counterargument asked if I’d feel safe alone in Jackson, Mississippi. I tried to explain that there are parts of most places I’d feel uncomfortable alone – the point is the cultural context is far different for a woman in each place. He agreed, for example “a woman wouldn’t travel alone in South America.”
The problem was that I had just begun planning on it. It felt like a dare; I told him yes there are places for example Amherst where I feel more out-of-my-element than abroad. Someone else tried to change the subject. Another woman spoke up to say she’d lived in India and that men “hook up” while traveling too. By the end, we were all backpedaling. I was inarticulate, frustrated, and flustered. Acclaimed Writer was dismissive, defensive, and thrown-off. This was not a shining moment in my academic career.
Acclaimed Writer seemed to consider us for a moment before commenting that the places he’s been and the experiences he’s had would have been different if he was a woman. “A man is invisible,” he said. To that, I agree.
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As of last week, I was going to learn about shamanic medicine in the Amazon rainforest of Peru along with a group led by Medicine Hunter Chris Killham and artist Zoe Helene. You can check out the area in the episode “Jungle Tripping” of BBC Channel 4′s Medicine Men Go Wild, the “Peru” episode of No Reservations (both streaming on Netflix), as well as in this section of Palin’s Full Circle. It was going to be a major opportunity.
When I met Acclaimed Writer, I was trying to decide if I would tack a couple weeks onto my time in Peru and visit Cuzco and Machu Picchu alone. Going solo in South America was intimidating and in general, Machu Picchu is not a trip I wanted to make by myself. But, if I’d already be in Peru, I didn’t want to bank on the fact I’d be there again soon with time to spare.
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I’d prefer my safety be ensured and I am free to explore whatever I want, whenever, without a reasonable chance of harassment. I was on my own completely in Singapore and New Zealand most recently, two places that are known to be safe for women. In the past I’ve navigated other big cities abroad and alone, but I’m a city girl in general, which I think has immunized me to a certain array of sketchiness. It is par for the course I’ve experienced my fair share of minor street harassment both at home and overseas.
Regardless, as with my ill-fated trip to Tokyo, waiting for the “right time” to travel scares me too much to consider. And rightfully so: it turns out despite my resolve, the timing isn’t right for my trip to the Amazon. At least I’m not grounded because I’m a girl or afraid of being alone in a cloud forest.
I often say I’m lucky I can travel at all and that it can change at any time, hoping in vain my awareness will by magic prevent a reality check. Acclaimed Writer was correct to imply many of my trips have been in concession to my fantasies somehow, though for me, to travel itself is a great privilege. Even in those international cities where I didn’t speak the language, I’ve had the information of an acquaintance in the area to “hook up” if need be.
Where would I go if, like Acclaimed Writer, I had the resources and influence to visit anywhere and plan an intentionally thought-provoking Travel Writing Adventure? I can’t view that question objectively, but now I’ll make a point to try.
There are women are far braver than me in their travels, but as I venture further out into the world, I’m facing new gender bias and concerns for the first time. Other than educate myself and coerce friends to come along, I can only hedge my bets and hope luck is on my side.
Its times like this I wish I’d been born male; to just grow a mustache and, as Acclaimed Writer said, become invisible. (PHOTO: Beyoğlu, Istanbul, Turkey, 07/02/2009)